Shut UP about kids and their technology!

How am I shouting “luddite” at 30-somethings?

The world is different than it was. Young people grow up with technology we (my generation and older) never had until we were adults.

Of course they use it differently, they grew up with it, they know it, it is not something new they had to learn as an adult, it was always there for them.

No, their social life isn’t worse than ours was because a lot of it is on their phones and tablets and laptops, absolutely not. There is a rich online world and young people who grew up with technology not only keep up their social contacts in real life, in meat space, whenever they happen to see each other, but also online. They are more in touch than we could ever be at their age, because they are connected to each other 24/7.

When my parents and I were apart, we had to rely on letters that took 3 weeks to cross the distance and let me tell you, I for one wasn’t a big letter writer. Now? Now I talk to my mum virtually every day. Wherever I go, wherever I am, I carry all my friends, loved ones and relatives in a small device in my pocket and I am never disconnected from them.

Kids grow up with this. They grow up knowing that those they care about are no more than a few clicks away. How the fuck are you claiming that youngsters’ social lives are poorer than ours were, because we went outside and they don’t as much (has anyone actually produced any reliable evidence of that?), it’s absolute bullsticks.

The New Yorker asks “What is a woman?”

Corine Judkins:

“Males are already using the mask of transgender to prey on women in once-female spaces. Given that men-who-become-women commit the same crimes that men do, and about as often, how long until a woman is murdered by a man in a formerly safe space?”

Originally posted on Gender Is War:

Michelle Goldberg writes:

What is a woman? The dispute between radical feminism and transgenderism

“This moment where we’re losing the ability to say the word ‘woman’ or to acknowledge the fact that being born female has lived consequences and meaning is kind of intense to me.”

Of course, we can still use the word “woman” and work specifically for women’s liberation. If we can deal with the death threats and other abuse from trans advocates.

This is what it looks like:

Abusive posts proliferated on Twitter and, especially, Tumblr. One read, “/kill/terfs 2K14.” [The slur “TERF” stands for “Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist.”] Another suggested, “how about ‘slowly and horrendously murder terfs in saw-like torture machines and contraptions’ 2K14.” A young blogger holding a knife posted a selfie with the caption “Fetch me a terf.” Such threats have become so common that radical-feminist Web sites have taken to…

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#freethenipple or “You’re not a real feminist until you get your tits out for the men”

Once again there is a lofty movement, called Free The Nipple, that purports to be all about women’s liberation, about feminism, about supporting women!

It claims to be:
“[..] an equality movement, and a mission to empower women across the world. We stand against female oppression and censorship, both in the United States and around the globe.”

Because nothing says women’s liberation like getting naked for people to ogle at, right girls?

People supporting the #freethenipple movement and posting on the hashtag are being facetious. They are pretending women don’t get stripped naked for entertainment purposes as a matter of course. They are pretending that making women’s bodies available for public consumption outside of pay-per-view and subscription-only porn sites will actually add to the empowerment of women.

Or they’ve been duped into believing it will.

But you know what? Other than getting a few women to post/show/display their nipples and a shitload of guys wanking to them, it’s not going to accomplish anything.

Did you notice how for a movement that purports to be about decriminalising public breastfeeding as one of its main goals, there is very little call for pictures of breastfeeding mothers?

Or how the #freethenipple teeshirt that you can buy for 34 dollars doesn’t show for instance a breastfeading mother but a pair of big tits?

Or how this “movement” is not actually even called anything to do with freeing women, but it’s called after a body part?

The message is clear: in order for women to be free, they have to show their body parts to as many men as possible.

I’ll quote myself, in 2008 when a similar project, called The Open Source Boob Project was trying to get off the ground:

Don’t you know that sexuality is defined by women’s breasts? And the only way we can free the world from sexual shame and realise true bodily freedom is by women making their breasts available for public consumption?

Don’t you know that the only reason men and women are ashamed about their bodies and reserved about sexuality is because women don’t make their breasts available more readily?

Oh yes, we’d all be living in a Utopia of non-shame about our bodies, we would all be happy little bunnies bopping about merrily without any shame about our wobbly bits and dangly parts if only those uppity women would put their breasts on the public buffet to be consumed by everyone who asks.

Yes, that is sarcasm, in case you didn’t pick up on it.

The Advocate thinks ovarian cancer is about men

Corine Judkins:

“Of course it “struck” this writer that Jolie’s breasts weren’t “tied to her gender identity.” He’s a man. He thinks boobs = female. This is why when people raise money for breast cancer research, they call the events “Save the Ta-Tas” – because there’s no fucking difference, in men’s eyes, between the glands on our chest and the complete human beings that we are. This is why men believe they can buy a set of tits, take some estrogen and BE female – because to men, we are nothing more than some boobs and smooth skin. That’s it. In the eyes of men, that’s the sum total of the female experience.”

Originally posted on Hypotaxis:

I know this is a painfully difficult thing for men to accept (even those men who feel like ladies), but sometimes women (you know, female human beings) get sick, endure shit, have feelings, and live through events that do not have anything to do with males. Sometimes, in the course of our little lives, women face choices that pertain only to their own lives, and not to the lives of men.

Sometimes, our experiences are not about men.

I know this is hard for men to grasp. As men, you have been conditioned to believe you have jurisdiction over women’s bodies. As men, you have been taught that the state of being female is little more than a flight of fancy that can be appropriated as one might appropriate a line from a poem. As men, y’all have been raised in a society that assures you EVERYTHING is about you.

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On sex, gender and Socialist Resistance

Corine Judkins:

“The insistence that women’s voices in particular – particularly when women are describing their lives and needs – require “trigger warnings” is patriarchal to the core. When people are offended by women speaking or writing, it’s rarely women who are the problem.”

Originally posted on glosswatch:

I originally wrote this piece for Socialist Resistance – in response to an idea that came from them, not me – but asked to have it withdrawn in light of this editorial announcement. I think it’s important for women’s work to be represented fairly and I don’t consent to my work being presented in contexts which don’t reflect the actual commission. The insistence that women’s voices in particular – particularly when women are describing their lives and needs – require “trigger warnings” is patriarchal to the core. When people are offended by women speaking or writing, it’s rarely women who are the problem.

In this particular instance I think Socialist Resistance need to be honest about their editorial policies and their political principles. There is a word for people for whom discussions of female bodies, female labour and male violence cause “offence and distress.” That word is not “trans”, “queer”…

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Special Edition: Sissies, Fetishists, and Kinksters

Corine Judkins:

“So this is one thing women can expect to be dealing with in the months and years to come: men dressing as women and entering women’s spaces deliberately to “desensitize” themselves to their sexual feelings. Is this a service women should be required to provide to men–validation of their “woman-ness” even as they stand there with their erections simply from wearing “female clothes”? Is the accommodation of these men through their desensitization process something all women and girls should be subjected to?”

Originally posted on Transgender Reality:

How often in media stories about MTF trans people using public accommodations for women do we see the same basic narrative: trans people have always felt these feelings for a long time, their feelings are not sexual or fetishistic, this isn’t a way to let sick or twisted men into women’s spaces.  Indeed, for most trans people, this is undoubtedly the case, but the problem lies in saying that there are no trans-identified people intent on using women’s spaces for fetishistic purposes.

You can see the result of this thinking in media coverage the current Planet Fitness case. The “trans woman” at the center of the Planet Fitness situation, “Carlotta Sklodowska,” is a male-identified fetishist who adopted a creepy, racist pseudo-Eastern European woman accent on his Facebook and liked posting objectifying, ultra-sexualized comments on fitness photos of women. Women are portrayed as crazy harpies for daring to warn other women about someone…

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Do Not Call Me Cisgender. You Do Not Have My Permission To Name Me.

Corine Judkins:

“I name myself. The names and words I use include female, woman, her, she, wimmin, womon, womyn. You have permission to use those words when addressing or referring to me.

You do not have the permission to call me names you have created for me, against my will and demand that I own them as mine.”

Originally posted on Uppity Biscuit:

Do Not Call Me Cisgender. You Do Not Have My Permission To Name Me.

Start/General definitions:

Cisgender is a neologism meaning “not transgender,” that is, a gender identity or performance in a gender role that society considers to match or be appropriate for one’s sex. The prefix cis- means “on this side of” or “not across” (cf. cisatlantic, cisalpine).

The term has been given credit as being created by Carl Buijs, a transsexual man from the Netherlands, in 1995. Additional roots show the name being used on a transgender website prior to 1995.

The term transgender was coined in the 1970s by Virginia Prince, a cross-dresser, transvestite, femmiphile, transgenderist in the USA.

End/General definitions

Do not call me cisgender. You have no right or authority to name me without my consent.

Cisgender is a word used by persons who have decided to name me without…

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